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Why It Seems Like I Have Been MIA


I hope everyone is having a fun and enjoyable summer. My summer has been extremely busy, stressful and full of surprises. (Conan’s Birthday and the Chicken)

It has been a long time since I visited my favorite blogs, posted to the popular message boards, and sent out friendly e mails to my blogging buddies. I am writing this to let all of my blogging friends know that I am still here I just have had a lot of things happen in my personal life, and am busy setting up our new sister site and that is why I just don’t have the time to visit your blogs like I used to.

I feel so terrible about this and hope that in a few months things will get back to normal and I will again find the time every day to read and comment on my favorite blogs.

I will explain a little more in detail as to what I have been up to. First of all as a blogger we all know that if we are doing this to earn a little extra money to support our family we need to link it to another business related to our blog. This is why I created The Healthy Moms Online.

On this new site you will find health and wellness products at affordable prices designed for busy moms. I don’t have a lot of HTML knowledge nor a massive budget so I created this website all on my own. I’ve spent several hours this summer loading products into my shopping cart software and tweaking the site with a lack of HTML skills. I am asking you to please visit this site and let me know what you think.

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Currently I only have natural herbal and homeopathic remedies from Native Remedies on there and affordable fitness equipment. If I can get some sales from this site I will be able to afford other products like, Beach Body fitness equipment, natural cosmetics, and aromatherapy. If you would like to see us expand our product line, please drop by, support our site by making a small purchase or share the link with your friends who may be interested. I need to make some sales in order for all the time and effort I put into it to be worth it.

The other reason why I haven’t been able to visit your websites is due to stress related to personal and family issues in my life. My marriage is doing to well and hasn’t been for some time. It is mostly due to communication issues but these problems have caused a lot of pain and hurt on both ends. Please pray for my marriage. I don’t know what is going to happen, but I do know that he is a wonderful father and I made a vow with God to stay with him for life.

Another stress that is weighing me down is that my husband is trying to get a promotion at work but has had a very difficult time with it. If you have been following my articles you will know that we live in a very bad part of Sacramento. Crime is pretty high around here, there are gang activities just down the street and drug busts are a regular occurrence in our neighborhood. Our next door neighbor in fact was arrested recently for what we think was drug related. It took me a long time to overcome my fear of going for a walk around the neighborhood without my husband. Needless to say, we keep to ourselves and don’t know the neighbors very well.

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Also, I have four children and we live in a tiny 900 square foot home. Most of our belongings are stuffed in boxes in our garage and toys are scattered all over the house. I have anxiety and am closterphobic so living this way is not helping my mental health.

My husband really wants to move out of this tiny house and into a safer neighborhood but we just can not afford it yet. That is why he is trying to get a promotion at work. He applied for several jobs east of the Mississippi River, which is where I would like to live, but he didn’t get any of them. There is one other job that he applied to up in Washington State but he is still waiting to find out if he got it or not. We were hoping to move out of California before the school year started but now it looks like that is not going to happen.

Now that Conan is old enough for preschool we decided we can no longer send our kids to the Catholic school. It will be way too expensive to send three kids there. My only choice is to send my oldest who will be starting eighth grade this fall to the local public middle school. She is terrified to go there because she hasn’t ever attended a public school and the middle school down the street is not only a public school but the typical inner city school.

My parents have offered to help pay for tuition if I can get her back into the Catholic school but with the start of the school year only weeks away I am worried that it may be too late. Also if I do that I will need to find a different preschool for Conan and Ciara, probably one that isn’t free and it has to be close to the Catholic school. I will also have to deal with traffic in the mornings again, which I hate. But I will do anything for my kids.

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I thought about homeschooling but with my low patience level and lack of knowledge on how to begin I don’t know if that is possible either. If any of you home school your kids out here in California please e mail me (talbertcascia at yahoo dot com) with tips on how to begin and how much it costs. I need something. Besides it will only be temporary. Once we move I will be able to send my kids to better schools.

So I am apoligizing for not visiting your blogs regularly. I hope you all understand. When everything settles back down I will be able to read and comment every day again. Please keep me in your prayers.

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Cascia Talbert

Cascia Talbert is a devout Catholic, mother of five children, health and fitness enthusiast and positive parenting supporter. She is also the founder of the award winning online health, fitness, parenting and Christian faith magazine for moms, the Healthy Moms Magazine. She lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband, five children and one spoiled cat. Her hobbies include gardening, country music, running, and playing her flute. Check out her first book, "Taking Care of your Family's Health and Well-being, Saints to Turn to and the Catholic Faith," available anywhere books are sold.

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8 Comments

  1. Diva (in Demand) July 27, 2010

    I know that this may sound in appropriate but I LOVE THIS POST!!!!!

    I am in a very similar situation, except for the kids and the job….we're both unemployed. You said everything out loud that I've wanted to say but am too scared to blog about because I don't want my husband to read it. Thank you for being so open and so honest and so forthcoming. THANK YOU.

  2. katlupe July 27, 2010

    Your post made me thankful for my home, and sad for you and your situation. Here is a forum that is about homeschooling and you can ask questions and they are more than happy to help. http://www.homesteadingtoday.com/forumdisplay.php?f=34

  3. Cascia July 27, 2010

    Thank you for visiting and reading this Diva and katlupe.

    Diva, I will keep you and your husband in my prayers as well. At one point my husband and I were both unemployed as well, so I totally understand what you are going through.

    Thank you, katlupe for sharing that forum link. Hopefully I will find the time to visit it.

  4. Esther - TTBM July 27, 2010

    My husband was laid off a year ago and didn't take it well.I had a tough time finding a job due to several factors beyond my control and yes we were a mess.We had a 1 yr old baby..who had to see mommy in tears often.But i want to encourage you by saying that all our tears are accounted for in God's eyes.I won't say that all troubles are over but God is helping me pick up myself again and slowly He is showing me that He can provide for all our needs independent of our circumstances ( job, education etc).God has given me a nice job ( stress-free), a very understanding boss..my job has played a big part in my inner healing.

    Hold on to God, He will NEVER leave you nor forsake you.He is ALWAYS faithful.

  5. Cascia July 27, 2010

    Thank you, Esther for the kind comment. I pray every day that God gives me the strength to get through this.

  6. The Mama Bird July 29, 2010

    I'm so sorry for all of the stress that you are dealing with right now. It makes my heart heavy for you…

    While I haven't been in your shoes, I do hope that you find encouragement in what I'm about to write.

    There is a reason why you are in your current situation. Nothing is coincidental. Nothing is an accident. My best advice is to immerse yourself in God's word and bathe yourself in prayer. Do the same with your family. SIMPLIFY. Instead of thinking about all the bad things going on, GO TO THE CROSS. Your perspective will begin to shift, and your burdens will get lighter. Jesus promises us that. I hope this doesn't sound too obvious, or even offensive, but I know I've been in my own valleys where I honestly lost perspective and it FINALLY, FINALLY hit me that I just need to focus on Jesus, NOT THE STORM. Focus on the Maker of the seas, not on the wind and the waves. THAT, my dear Sister, is when you will WALK ON WATER!!!

    And a thought about homeschooling…I homeschool my kids as well, and I never ever pictured myself as being capable of doing so. I'm not patient by nature, and I wasn't very fond of the whole concept. But God got hold of my and my husband's hearts, and we now know that this is His calling for our lives (speaking personally…not necessarily about every person!). We actually started off thinking we'd homeschool for a few years then send the kids to school, but it has been such a positive experience (yet also challenging, of course!) that we plan to continue on, possibly even through HIGH SCHOOL if that is God's will! WHOA!

    And as far as being unsure of where to start, I would love to help in any way I can. I can recommend some resources! The HSLDA (Homeschool Legal Defense Association) website also has GREAT articles and other help regarding the legal side of it. They also have some articles on simply HOW TO GET STARTED. I know it seems overwhelming but I promise you that IF GOD CALLS YOU, HE WILL EQUIP YOU. I'm living proof of that! 🙂

    Again, I'd love to help answer your questions, or alleviate any concerns you may have. And here's a thought I just had. Maybe (just maybe) God is allowing all of these negative circumstances to go on around you, so that you are “thrown” into the homeschooling life, because maybe (just maybe) He knows it is the best thing for YOUR family. We felt called to homeschool at a time when we lived in a wonderful community with wonderful school options. It really made no sense to us why God would want us to bypass those options and teach our children at home. But less than a year after we embarked on the homeschooling journey, God called us to move to an area where we wouldn't have felt comfortable sending our kids to school. Amazing! Now we feel free to go wherever God calls us, without having to worry about transferring schools, etc. etc. It's liberating!

    Okay, I'm done now. I'm sorry for writing the LONGEST. COMMENT. EVER. :/ I just really wanted to do my best to encourage you tonight. I'll be praying for God to move mountains in your life! 🙂

  7. Cascia July 29, 2010

    Thank you Mama Bird for your kind words and for taking the time to write such a long comment. I am still debating weather to homeschool my oldest or send her to the California Virtual Academy. I think I need to pray some more about it and discuss our options with my husband once again.