Long work weeks, busy schedules, and our dependency for electronic gadgets can create a lot of stress. Our children, even the smallest ones, can sense when we are under stress. It is during these times they crave our attention and will choose to try to get it in a negative manner. Why do children do this and how can we remain calm when we are stressed out and our little ones seem out of control?
I ask myself this question every single day. My husband is a salesman and his job requires him to travel three days a week. Sometimes he is miles away and stays overnight a few nights leaving me home with five children. Four of our children are ages five and under. Our oldest is a very complicated teenager. When my husband is out of town I get overwhelmed and stressed out very easily. If I did not stay calm while playing single mom, my kids would be holy terrors. How do I do it? Here are a few of my tips.
1. When stress seems to take control walk away. Fortunately I have a teenage daughter so if I need to get away from my kids I leave her in charge, put the baby in the stroller and go for a walk. It helps me to calm down and relax. If you don’t have a child old enough to babysit then you can either take all the kids with you and go for a walk, or have a trusted neighbor or close friend watch them for you. Sometimes just ten minutes away from your children can help you rejuvenate so you are able to handle the situation better.
2. Separate the trouble makers. If one of your children keeps misbehaving put him somewhere alone either for a time out, or in his bedroom. If he is 2 or younger make sure he is in a safe place where he will not hurt himself. A crib, play yard or a bedroom with the door shut are great examples of safe places for little ones. If your child screams for a long time just leave him there until you are calm and collected. If your children are fighting with each other put them in separate areas. If a time out doesn’t work, then find separate activities for the squabbling siblings.
3. Put off what is not important for the given moment. Do you really need to wash those dishes piling in the sink? Can you fold and put away your laundry tomorrow? Think about what is the most important thing at the exact time your children are misbehaving. Your kids’ health and safety and your health and personal well being are more important than bills, work and household chores. If those three things are causing the stress in your life set them aside for another day.
How do you handle stressful situations with your children?
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About This Author
Cascia Talbert is a busy blogger, publisher, freelance writer, online merchant and mother of five children, living in The Pacific Northwest. With a B.A. in history and law and a passion for writing and staying healthy, she started The Healthy Moms Magazine in 2007. The Healthy Moms Magazine is currently ranked the top health blog for moms and features several health expert writers and mom bloggers. Ms. Talbert believes that if mothers are well educated on health issues and how to stay healthy, they can pass that information down to their children and reverse the childhood obesity statistics in the U.S.
Ms. Talbert is a featured health blogger at Wellsphere.com and her articles can also be found on ezinearticles.com. She also runs the Healthy Moms Social Network on Ning, manages Mom’s Natural Health and Wellness Store, and is on the Social Media Advisory Board for America’s Wellness Challenge.