Recently I started a discussion in a few different Blog Frog communities on this topic and I got a bunch of unique responses from seasoned bloggers and new bloggers which has led me to a this conclusion about commenting on blogs.
As a veteran blogger I still believe that it is very important to leave comments on other blogs. Although, I have not been very good at doing this for the past year. Let me explain.
When we moved my schedule got thrown off and I struggled with the adjustment. My husband was working strange shifts due to his new job and I just was not able to stick to my old blogging routine. When he was working I had to be around for the kids. Also we were expecting a new baby.
After the baby was born I still had trouble fitting reading and commenting on blogs in my schedule. He was waking up in the middle of the night to nurse and I was tired every single day. This went on for about three months.
During that time I stopped leaving comments on my favorite blogs and relied on social media in order to get my page views up. Facebook, Twitter, The Blog Frog and Stumble Upon worked so well for me. I got enough traffic from those sites to make some good advertising money. I might have even developed the “I am too good to comment on blogs” attitude. After all, reading blogs and leaving a well thought out comment takes time, right? And who has time for that?
For months this was my attitude. Now that my baby is turning one just before Christmas this year and he is sleeping much better I am also getting more sleep. I am now used to my husband’s schedule and am able to spend more time doing what I love, blogging. I know I can set aside some time every day to read other blogs and I should.
When you read the same blogs regularly and leave comments you get to know the blogger on a more personal level. Eventually you socialize with them on Facebook, Twitter, The Blog Frog and even e mail each other back and forth. I miss the women that I used to interact with in this way. The women of whom I’ve never met in person but wish to someday. These are the girls that I could always count on to leave comments back on my blog and they were supportive when I dealt with tough times. I call them my blogging buds. And it is all my fault for losing these connections.
I want to apologize to these buds. Julie from Momspective, I am so sorry it has been a while since I have visited your blog. I really miss the lively humor you bring to the blogosphere and all of your zany quirkiness. Is that even a word? I promise I will be back.
Sheila from Ma Vie Folle, you are like a big sister to me. You have always been there when I was going through tough times and needed to rant on my blog. I miss reading your stories about your family and everything that is going on in the great state of Ohio. I enjoyed reading your family vacation stories and I am so sorry I haven’t visited you recently. I promise I will be back.
Sue from Stay At Home Mom even though we live on opposite ends of the country I still could relate to you. I read, followed your blog and watched it blossom throughout the years and had the privilege to get to know your two beautiful children. I loved seeing their photos on your Wordless Wednesday posts. You always visited my blog and left me a comment when I left one for you. I promise I will be back.
Kristy from Kristy’s Notes, I have gotten to know you and your beautiful children through your cute but always entertaining blog. You have been a loyal commenter and friend. I promise I will be back.
Blue Violet from A Nut in a Nutshell,what can I say, who doesn’t read her fabulous blog? She is an amazing woman and I feel honored to have gotten to know her and call her my blogging friend. Thank you for being so supportive of my blog through commenting. I know I’ve visited A Nut in a Nutshell recently and I promise I will be back.
I also want to thank these women for being there for me and commenting on The Healthy Moms Magazine in the past. I have gotten to know every single one and can call them friends: Felicia from Go Graham Go! Mrs. Marine from Mrs. Marine and the Tiny Troops, Mary Anne, Harriet, Andrea, Diana, Denise, Melanie, Secret Mom Thoughts, SunnyMama, Dina, Theresa, Tina, Conversations with Moms, Jessica, Alicia, Momisodes, Helene, Brimful Curiosities, Tabitha, Help! Mama Remote, Brandy, The Jacobsen Family, and JamericanSpice. I have gotten to know all of these ladies through blogging and I promise I will be back.
I may or may not have the time to leave a comment, but I will visit and read all of your blogs. If you check your traffic stats and see a visit from Spokane, WA then you will know that I was there. If I leave a comment and you don’t visit and comment back I totally understand. I will still return to comment on your blog.
I know some bloggers read hundreds of blogs a day and comment on every single one. I admire them but I just do not have the time to do this. I used to expect other bloggers to comment on my blog after I left one on theirs, but now I know that for some this is impossible.
If I only have time to visit the blogs I mentioned above I believe that I have done my part and will move onto the next step in blogging or take care of my family. But I promise I will visit those blogs whose owners leave comments here or on my new blog, The Zoo. I might not visit the day you leave a comment on my blog or the day after but I promise I will visit and leave you a comment.
Blogging is all about relationship building. I know I have said this in the past but it is time for me to truly believe it and lead by example. I will continue to build relationships with my blog and stop counting the comments I receive. I also need to stop comparing my blog to others. I believe that I have a great blog and am very influential in the blogosphere. The Healthy Moms Magazine attracts a lot of advertisers, is getting thousands of page views a day, has over a thousand subscribers and has made the impact that I expected. It is time for me to stop the comparisons and jealousies.
Do you think it is important to leave comments on other blogs? How often do you do this, every day? I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Cascia Talbert is a busy blogger, publisher, freelance writer, online merchant and mother of five children, living in The Pacific Northwest. With a B.A. in history and law and a passion for writing and staying healthy, she started The Healthy Moms Magazine in 2007. The Healthy Moms Magazine is currently ranked the top health blog for moms and features several health expert writers and mom bloggers. Ms. Talbert believes that if mothers are well educated on health issues and how to stay healthy, they can pass that information down to their children and reverse the childhood obesity statistics in the U.S.
Ms. Talbert is a featured health blogger at Wellsphere.com and her articles can also be found on ezinearticles.com. She also runs the Healthy Moms Social Network on Ning, manages Mom’s Natural Health and Wellness Store, and is on the Social Media Advisory Board for America’s Wellness Challenge.