Moms, To Work or Not to Work? That is NOT the Question
First time moms and all mothers in general want to do what is best for their children. The first question that you need to answer after having a baby is whether or not you should stay home or work. Fortune 500 executive coach and author, Shannon Cassidy, knows many great and many not so great working moms and stay at home moms. Cassidy concludes that working is not the factor to measure effectiveness. It’s about love, attention and engagement with one’s children.
As a work at home mom often I feel guilty and worry that I am not spending enough time with my children. I started building my business over five years ago and am still trying to reach business goals and personal goals for myself. Can I truely feel personal sucess without sacrificing too much time away from my children? I know some moms who run social media businesses like mine hire nannys to take care of their children. By hiring a nanny I would not be as involved in my childrens’ lives as I want to. I asked Shannon how I can reach my personal goals without feeling guilty about being away from my children.
“Working from home requires discipline and planning,” states Shannon. “It’s challenging to feel you’re good at anything when you’re running multiple roles simultaneously. Here are some tips that will help:
1. Define success in achievable terms. What does it mean to be a successful business owner? What rules do you have about meeting that goal? What does success look like as a parent?
2. Schedule specific time for each of your priorities. Have time allocated just for the kids: playing, feeding, cuddling, reading, etc. and have time just for work: design, email, customer service, marketing. Doing both at the same time is a recipe for ruin.
3. Set goals. Write down your goals for all of the areas of your life. What do you want? When can you achieve it? Who can hold you accountable?
4. Design your Formula for Fulfillment (see: The Five Degree Principle) and recognize that what works today will likely not work next month. Be adaptable and flexible with your changing priorities and recalibrate regularly.
5. Establish rewards. When you reach goals, experience fulfillment, reach a milestone – celebrate! An abundant life is something to celebrate!”
Starting today I am going to write down my personal goals, business goals and include playtime with my kids in my regular schedule. Yes I can have it all and I believe I made the right decision when chosing to work from home to be closer to my children.
Shannon Cassidy is the founder and CEO of bridge between inc., a professional services firm specializing in executive coaching, program facilitation and keynote speaking. Cassidy holds certifications from Harvard Law School in Negotiation Training and from the Mediation Training Institute in Organizational Conflict Resolution. Her areas of expertise include: emotional intelligence, leadership transitions and team synergy. Her ability to get to the point and inspire positive change has made her one of the most sought-after coaches and speakers in her field. In fact, Forbes.com cited Cassidy as one of Philadelphia’s top coaches.
Cascia Talbert is a busy blogger, publisher, freelance writer, online merchant and mother of five children, living in The Pacific Northwest. With a B.A. in history and law and a passion for writing and staying healthy, she started The Healthy Moms Magazine in 2007. The Healthy Moms Magazine is currently ranked the top health blog for moms and features several health expert writers and mom bloggers. Ms. Talbert believes that if mothers are well educated on health issues and how to stay healthy, they can pass that information down to their children and reverse the childhood obesity statistics in the U.S.
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