Surrogate Mother Refuses to Terminate Pregnancy
I am Catholic and have always believed in the right to life for everyone. Life begins from the moment of conception and ends at our natural death. After my own very personal experience when I became a young single mother, I started to be a pro-life advocate. I attended pro-life events, life chains, and even spoke about my experience to a church youth group. I am proud that I chose life. Authors Andrea and Keston Ott-Dahl, share their story on how and why they chose life in the new book, “Saving Delaney: From Surrogacy to Unexpected Family.” This book has a pro-life message in a very surprising story.
The two women decided to act as a pregnancy surrogate for a wealthy Silicon Valley couple. When pre-natal testing revealed the baby would be born with Down Syndrome, the Silicon Valley couple wanted her to abort the baby. But, the two women decided they wanted to keep the child and raise her themselves. The story takes the reader through the legal, medical and emotional battles they had to go through with the new baby. In the end they chose life and Delaney is a beautiful little 3-year-old girl.
I loved the whole message of chosing life no matter what. God gave the two women a beautiful gift. As a mother with special needs children I understand how many challenges they come with. But, the rewards far outweigh the challenges.
The story in Saving Delaney is beautiful, although I don’t support same-sex couples raising children. The Catholic church does not support gay marriage. As Catholics we believe that children raised by a mother and father are healthier, and better adjusted emotionally than kids raised by single parents of either sex. According to Catholic Answers,
“We know that children raised in families containing one non-biological parent are dozens of times more likely to be abused than children raised by both biological parents.63 In some studies, children raised by homosexual partners seem to suffer from sex-role confusion.64 Studies by Cameron and Cameron have shown a high incidence of incest between minor children and homosexual parents of both sexes.65 These investigators suggest that homosexual parents may be more likely to abuse their children sexually than heterosexual parents, so although the point is not definitively proven, the available evidence is worrisome.
Children raised by both biological parents are significantly healthier, happier and better adjusted emotionally than kids raised by single parents of either sex. They are less likely to live in poverty or engage in violent crime or sexual promiscuity and more likely to be successful in school, career, and marriage.66 Same-sex couples, by definition, would have at least one non-biological parent.
There seem to be good reasons that children need both biological parents. The sexes are different. Because gender is a real phenomenon, it should come as no surprise that men and women parent differently. Men and women bring different, complementary skills to child rearing. Men are more likely to play expansively with their children than to do mundane care taking; women tend to be more practical. Mothers tend to be more responsive to their child’s immediate needs, while fathers tend to be more firm, more oriented to abstract standards of justice (right and wrong).67 Kids need both.” (source: http://www.catholic.com/documents/gay-marriage)
While reading, “Saving Delaney,” I tried my best to not focus on what I mentioned above. Instead I concentrated on the pro-life message of the book. Every child is a gift and is worth saving. Saving Delaney is available to purchase on Amazon.com and anywhere books are sold.
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*Disclosure: I received a copy of the book, “Saving Delaney” from Cleis Press in exchange for this review. All opinions are accurate and 100% mine.