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Teaching Children Responsibility with Poker Chips

Poker Chips

 

Growing up the word responsibility was very important.  We had jobs (or chores) to do every Saturday and after supper (dinner) all five of us kids had something to do to help clean up.  My mother taught us that responsibility should come first before leisure.  Both of my parents are hard workers and instilled those values on us kids.  My mother was a Catholic school teacher and my father was a Wisconsin State Trooper.  Besides their paying jobs, my mother worked hard to keep a clean house and my father worked hard to maintain our yard, garden, fix things in the home if they needed repair, and clear the snow off of the driveway in the winter while I was growing up.  We learned that hard work brings rewards.  Today my parents are blessed with good health so they can work hard volunteering in their community and church, and spend time traveling and visiting with their 5 children and 13 grandchildren.  I hope I am able to do the same thing when I am their age.

I’ve always admired my mother and I am trying so hard to raise my five kids in the same manner she raised us.  But, teaching them responsibility has been challenging.  Kids these days are so wrapped up in their electronics, video games, computers and gadgets that they are not always aware of what their parents do for the family.  I’ve learned that leading by example doesn’t always work when trying to teach your children responsibility.

My oldest is 19 years old.  When she was younger, my husband and I tried every technique in the book to teach her how to keep her room clean, help out around the house, and learn the art of responsibility.  It took her a lot longer than we expected to master this skill.  Today, she still struggles with keeping her room clean.  To avoid making the same mistakes with my younger children as I did with her, I decided to try a new game to teach my kids responsibility.

The Chip Game

What you will need:

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  • House Rules
  • A Bowl or Bucket
  • Small Prizes from Your Local Dollar Store
  • Hand Written Coupons for Special Privileges
  • Poker Chips
  • Plastic Containers with Lids
  • Sharpie
  • Poker Chips

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Set up the game

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The first thing you need to do is write out a set of house rules for your kids to follow every single day.  Make sure you display the rules in a high traffic area or a family room so your kids can read them and learn the rules.  Next, give each of your children a plastic container with a lid and make sure you have a container for yourself too.  You can either have your children decorate their container with simple craft supplies or you can just write their names on the containers with a sharpie.  Make sure you label your container as well.   Then, fill a bowl or bucket with small prizes from your local dollar store.  You can also make hand written coupons for special privileges like extra time on the computer or tablet and place them in an envelope for the prize bowl.  After that decide how many poker chips one prize will cost.  We make our kids earn 30 chips before they can get a prize or coupon.

How to play

Chip Game

Have your children sit down together on a couch, at a table or on the floor with their container.  Go through each house rule.  For every rule that your child obeys he will earn a chip.  When all the rules have been read and the chips have been passed out your child can count his chips.  If your child has enough chips he can exchange them for a prize or a coupon.

We are trying to play this game every single night, but sometimes it gets forgotten.  It is working and my kids are learning more about responsibility.

How do you teach responsibility?

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Cascia Talbert

Cascia Talbert is a devout Catholic, mother of five children, health and fitness enthusiast and positive parenting supporter. She is also the founder of the award winning online health, fitness, parenting and Christian faith magazine for moms, the Healthy Moms Magazine. She lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband, five children and one spoiled cat. Her hobbies include gardening, country music, running, and playing her flute. Check out her first book, "Taking Care of your Family's Health and Well-being, Saints to Turn to and the Catholic Faith," available anywhere books are sold.

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8 Comments

  1. Evelyn March 5, 2016

    What a creative way to teach an important trait! I love it!

  2. Cascia Talbert March 5, 2016

    Glad you found this helpful. My kids love playing the chip game every night. Thanks for stopping by, Evelyn. Have a great evening!

  3. Liz Mays March 7, 2016

    I imagine once it became part of the routine, it could really work. I think the kids will help remind you too.

  4. Cascia Talbert March 8, 2016

    So far my kids are learning how to obey the rules with the Chip Game. Thanks for stopping by, Liz. Have a great day!

  5. Nerline March 10, 2016

    This is such a great post! Your parents are blessed with 13 grandchildren. This is a great game. I love the concept.

  6. Alissa Apel March 21, 2016

    I so need to try this with my kids. I think they would love it. It’s a great concept!

    I’ve also seen where you can have 2 mason jars. You write down on slips of paper tasks to put in one. You write down prizes for another. They pick out the tasks to do. Once they’ve done an agreed amount of tasks, they get to pull out a prize.

  7. Cascia Talbert March 22, 2016

    I like your mason jar idea too. I am always looking for more creative ways to teach my kids about responsibility. Thanks for stopping by, Alissa. Have a terrific Tuesday!

  8. Dee April 9, 2016

    I love this idea — I’m big on teaching responsibility too. Thanks for sharing at Merry Monday! 🙂