We are here to celebrate the arrival of King Jesus! What could wrong? Well…lots of things, actually. Does part of you dread Christmas because of family drama? You love your family and celebrating, but gatherings create a space where lots of different people are together and that can….well…be breeding grounds for drama.
Drama can show up in lots of ways, but the main problem is judgment! We are either judging someone according to their opinions, actions, life choices, or voting decisions (hello) or we are feeling judged by people.
Drama with family or friends can suck the joy out of any Christmas party! Don’t let it happen this year.
Everyone knows we shouldn’t judge, but it happens anyway.
Matthew 7:1-2 Do not judge or you to will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and the measure you use, it will measured to you!
Here is another example. James 4:11- Do not speak against one another, brothers. He who speaks against a brother, or judges his brother, speaks against the law, and judges the law. …..But you-who are you to judge your neighbor?
OUCH Judging others is a huge deal! And it is painful. Most people can feel your judgments. Have you ever felt judged by a person? It’s the worst. It does hurt.
You have to deal with how you judge others because is jacks up your ability to love them well. Notice I didn’t say agree with them…I said judge them. Not sure if you struggle with judgment? Ask yourself these questions. Do you look down on others with a superior attitude? Do you talk bad about people?
Everyone does it in some fashion whether we want to admit it or not.
If you find you hold judgments against family and friends I have good news!! We can confess and ask Jesus to help us to see them with love. That’s actually our only part. We can’t change our hearts, but we can give them to Jesus and ask Him to change it for us.
So before your Christmas gatherings this year spend some time in prayer and ask God to get rid of what’s in your heart that causes you to judge others.
Here is an example prayer:
God I confess that I judge _______________ (name) by thinking or saying ___________________(how you judged.) Please forgive me and get rid of any effects of this sin. I confess you are the only judge over ______________(name) and I ask you to heal any wound me judging them caused. Please bless _____________(name) with ____________________________(LOTS of blessings.)Please show me any wounds you want to heal that caused me to judge.
Maybe you are on the other end of judgment and you dread Christmas parties because you feel judged by someone. If this is you, pray this!
Dear Heavenly Father,
Help me to always remember you are my only Judge and you are well pleased with me. Help me to feel safe and accepted in your love for me. God, I feel judged by ____________________(name) when this person does or says ____________________________(state what they do.) In Jesus name I cancel any results these judgments have on my life. Help me to forgive _____________(name.) Please protect me from harsh words or attitudes. Show me any wounds you want to heal because of being judged.
Okay, so you might not be able to kick drama completely out of your family/friend gatherings this Christmas, but you can at least position your heart to lean on Christ to LOVE like Him and/or protect your heart by receiving perfect love from Him. This will absolutely help cut out the drama you bring to the situation!
It’s Christmas! Let seek Peace as a way to honor the birth of the Prince of Peace. Remember that simply having an attitude that honors others goes a long way. As always, I’m praying for y’all!
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for King Jesus. Help us to ever be mindful of how amazing the gift of Jesus is. God, we need you. We want to love people like you. Help us to see where we judge others and heal those relationships. Father, please let this year’s gathering be ones that honor you!
In Jesus name,